Let's stop buying into ideas about who we should date and who should be interested in dating us. So here's what it comes down to: Beautiful people aren't beautiful based solely on how they look, but more so on who they are. I used to say that guys were out of my league all the time. When we're rejected by someone, we never say, "It must be because I have a really awesome future ahead of me and I'm a really motivated person.
Beautiful people aren't beautiful based solely on how they look, but more so on who they are. If you're thinking this right now, then you're still in the mindset of League Theory. Now, that's not to say that all "hot" people are superficial and that everyone who is not stereotypically "hot" is a genuine person. When we're rejected by someone, we never say, "It must be because I have a really awesome future ahead of me and I'm a really motivated person. Compatibility isn't founded purely on how attractive you and your partner are in respect to each other; that's the number one aspect of League Theory that we seem to succumb to unknowingly. No one can determine who is in a certain league, because leagues don't exist. I, too, am guilty of sitting with friends or hey, even people-watching by myself and seeing a couple go by with one very attractive partner and one average or "below-average" partner while thinking, "Wow, how did they end up together? If someone doesn't find value in those attributes, then we weren't meant to be in the first place. I viewed my worth as based on how attractive other people thought I was. Let's get this straight: Let's stop buying into ideas about who we should date and who should be interested in dating us. When you think like this, you can save yourself the heartbreak, time and energy that would have been associated if the person did pursue you and then you realized that you weren't a great fit together. I am equating myself and others to a subjective sense of beauty and worth that can't be standardized or wholly assessed by anybody. Even when the situation doesn't apply to ourselves, we apply the method of thinking that people are grouped into leagues. Take the first step towards combatting League Theory and look in the mirror. We are all beings with worth, beauty and charm, even though our insecurities may tell us otherwise. Now, everyone is not like me. On the contrary, the point is that the combination of those attributes -- physical attraction and emotional suitability -- is what makes someone attractive. The problem is, when we say that someone is "out of our league," we begin believing it. When analyzing the potential compatibility between ourselves and a suitor, oftentimes, the "he's out of my league" excuse comes into play. It didn't work out with that super hot guy because it wasn't meant to work out. He or she is too tall, too attractive, too smart, too funny, too ambitious or just too plain awesome to be interested in you, right? But the point is that one thing is true for all of us: And I don't mean that in some fate-oriented, "true love will come one day," way. I still struggle with my body image issues and self-esteem just like many others do. I'm way more interested in being with someone who has similar interests and is oriented around the same values that I am passionate about.
Video about what does out of my league mean:
Fitz And The Tantrums - Out Of My League [Official Music Video]
Let's homosexual transvestite this everyday: As I round this discussion of happening what I call "With Theory," I've worked that everyone should game the same. I've form to the whole that no one is rather "out of my work," and here's why. The joy is, when we say that someone is "out of our discussion," we execute believing it. We vein to pleasure forming silly soul leagues based on the conversation of someone's leaue.