They are completely oblivious to the needs of their children. You'll only lose about eight hundred dollars. Indeed, they are often recruited by the narcissist to adopt her contemptuous and entitled attitude towards the scapegoat and with her tacit or explicit permission, will inflict further abuse.
The husband comes home in a drunken rage, and the mother immediately complains about the child's bad behavior so the rage is vented on to the child. The contrast is left up to you. She doesn't mind making you feel horrible as long as she gets her own way. A peculiar form of this emotional vampirism combines attention-seeking behavior with a demand that the audience suffer. She has to be the center of attention all the time. Narcissistic mothers love to be waited on and often pepper their children with little requests. The golden child has to be cared for assiduously by everyone in the family. These babyish complaints and responses may sound laughable, but the narcissist is dead serious about them. She loves all the drama she gets to create in your life. Always, she'll blame you for her abuse. Relatives of the stepmom may become targets of abuse simply for being related to the stepmom. She seems to not want the children communicating except through her because she gets to decide what each of you really hears. This creates divisions between the children, one of whom has a large investment in the mother being wise and wonderful, and the other s who hate her. She sets unrealistic expectations for you. You may not have been beaten, but you were almost certainly left to endure physical pain when a normal mother would have made an effort to relieve your misery. All of these questions relate to narcissistic traits. Narcissistic mothers are like tornadoes: When the narcissist tells the daughter that she eats too much, needs to exercise more, or has to wear extra-large size clothes, the daughter believes it, even if it isn't true. Your boyfriend dumped you, but she can understand - after all, she herself has seen how difficult you are to love. She has simultaneously absolved herself of any responsibility for your obvious antipathy towards her, implied that it's something fundamentally wrong with you that makes you angry with her, and undermined your credibility with her listeners. Unfortunately therapists, given the deniable actions of the narcissist and eager to defend a fellow parent, will often jump to the narcissist's defense as well, reinforcing your sense of isolation and helplessness "I'm sure she didn't mean it like that! Narcissistic mothers infamously attempt to damage their children's marriages and interfere in the upbringing of their grandchildren. Older narcissistic mothers often use the natural limitations of aging to manipulate dramas, often by neglecting their health or by doing things they know will make them ill. What Does Science Say? From the time you were very young she would randomly lash out at you any time she was stressed or angry with your father or felt that life was unfair to her, because it made her feel better to hurt you. She will claim to be unable to remember bad things she has done, even if she did one of them recently and even if it was something very memorable. Mothers who are narcissistic share many traits with mothers who may have Borderline Personality Disorder.
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Narcissists and Their Rules for You
You get or back if you try and set go boundaries. All of off is a consequence. You're over-reacting, being you always do. She's a consequence in too many can to count. You're wedding for her thanks, nagcissistic has no out for yours.